Six ways to get spark back in your marriage

Many people believe that marriage is another name of compromise. Yes, but this is half the truth. You have to make compromises but not at the cost of your own happiness. This where people go wrong. You let go of your own happiness for others, whereas to make others happy, you first need to be happy yourself. With time, things are taken for granted, which is very natural, and the spark disappears from the relationship. This is not the end. It is possible to revive the relationship and get back that spark. Follow these simple rules and see the spark being ignited in the relationship.

1. Communication: You need to communicate with your spouse on regular basis. You share major happenings with your spouse, but it is more important to share little everyday things that might not really seem necessary, but it will definitely increase the friendly bond between the two of you.

2. Spend Time: Make sure to take out time everyday, whether it is a 10-minute coffee together or an hour long chat in a balcony. Here, whether you talk or what you talk is not really of importance, just being together is the key. With time, you will look forward for this time together and the spark will surely come back.

3. Greetings: This is a small gesture but is very important to keep the bond strong. Greet your spouse as you greet your friends, family, colleagues, with a smile. Kiss them goodbye as you would do to a friend. We generally miss out on these small articles, which are actually very important to keep the relationship happy.

4. Vacation: Holidaying together, atleast once a year, is another important factor. Change of the environment and away from the regular routine, together, once a while, is extremely significant in making the love between the two deeper.

5. Accept: It is not always the other person’s fault. Accept, if you are wrong, apologize, say sorry. Ego should never come in between the two, if you really love your spouse. There is a very thin line between self respect and ego, do not mistake as the two being one. 

6. Make that extra effort: When you started off, you used to do a little extra to make the other person feel important. Now, when you have the person in your life, why stop that effort. Do a little extra, give surprise, get gifts, appreciate and make your spouse feel happy. Giving happiness will get you greater happiness. 

Divorce

Why is divorce seen as a negative subject? It is one of the most effective adhesive for a splintered married life. Marriages happen, but they do not carry a promise tag of being successful. What is failure of a marriage- it is simply that two people are not getting along well together? What is the big deal? Two colleagues may not get along well, two cousins may not get along well….. So what if two people who are married do not get along well. Why is it a matter of gargantuan concern – WHY??  Why do families or society see it as an ignominy?

Living with someone you cannot live with and making your life an ordeal is completely insane. The wisest decision that can be taken then is to separate and live a sound life. It is more so important if you have kids. The effect of a disturbed marriage on a child is far more excruciating than the effect of a divorce. If a split-up happens, the child will then atleast live with one sane person rather than living with two insane beings.

There is nothing one will attain being part of a distressed marriage. Your reality of life will be unpleasant and people’s belief on your veracity will be false. You will get nothing but despondency and the effect of the same will definitely be misery in every aspect of your life. Your discontentment will be demonstrated in your behavior, even if you choose not to and it will affect the environment around you in a negative way. Communicate with your spouse if something is bothering you, there will either be a solution or conclusion. In either of the situations, your misery will come to an end. Whatever it is, don’t be diffident in taking that step.

You live your life the way you choose to. You have the power and authority to lead your life your way because your life is your treasure; it belongs to you and no one else. Any reason for choosing dejection has certainly to be illogical and if you find any sense in your reason, then you are fooling yourself. Do not waste your precious years living in misery lest you regret later when the time is gone. Explore the radiance of life – it is delightful.